This is an extract from my monthly newsletter - and important enough for me to want to share it here. (You can get more like this HERE - and I am sure you will figure out how to subscribe if you like it.)
For a long time I searched for the key.
The key to success. The key to happiness. The key to anything you care to name. It took a while for it to dawn on me:
There is no key.
And it took even longer for me to actually believe what I knew.
Does too many cooks spoil the broth or do many hands make light work?
Both. Neither. Sometimes.
I subscribe to over 300 blogs. I am a prolific reader. I am a student of life.
You can learn from success and you can learn from failure. There is a time to stand out and there is a time to fit in. You can study your competition or you can ignore them and focus on your own business.
Sometimes the one thing works better than the other and it is only ever clear with hindsight. That is why hindsight is wonderful; but then again foresight may even be better. So ideally you want both…
You can see where this is going.
We think in a linear manner, but life weaves a tangled web.
Our survival instincts require as to make quick, repeatable decisions. As you meander on the path of life, it is useful when you need to distinguish between a snake and a harmless stick. And is not so useful when you need to decide between a merger and acquisition.
It is liberating to know there are no secrets and no ‘keys’, and you consequently acquire permission to dream and are encouraged to take risks - with no better justification required than simply saying ‘who knows’ or ‘why not’?
So, are you worried if ‘that thing you want to do’ is going to work out the way you intended? Don’t be – nobody knows. And it is okay if you don’t either.
There is no panacea. There is no magic bullet. Just (re-)load the gun and keep shooting. Show up every day. Do the best you can with what you got where you are. Keep doing it if it makes sense to you and harms no one else.